My best friend that has been in my life for 33 yrs. She has suffered some very traumatic things in her life, and finally found "the thing" that works for her: EMDR. This makes me so happy for her. I've seen her struggle for so long, and often felt so powerless and of no help at all.
To make a long story short, I'm much newer to the battle with my own mental health problems. PTSD, panic disorder, and a few other diagnosed conditions are really all new to me. In some respects, I'm still in the stage of fully understand what some of these things even mean. If you've read my posts, you'll know I have a T that I very much believe in. In fact, this is really the only positive I am feeling about the road ahead of me right now.
When I talk to my best friend, she is always instant that EMDR is what's I need and that nothing else will work. She does not trust that my T will be able to help me. She is mad because I've recently agreed to take Xanax for my progressively debilitating panic attacks and thinks that I am being led astray by my T and med Dr. Her only prescription for what will work for me is a low dose antidepressant and EMDR and doesn't seem open to hearing anything else.
She's been my best friend my whole life. She loves and cares for me like few people do I understand she's very concerned for me, and living across the country from one another doesn't make her anxiety about things any better. I'm not upset with her about how she feels. I know it comes from a place of love and care. My problem is that I believe her unwillingness to be open to the idea that different things work for different people has become a barrier to me feeling like I can talk to her freely about what I'm experiencing. That's a ****** feeling because I need her right now.
I looked into EMDR last year at her suggestion. She even scheduled an appointment for me with someone in my city, then insisted I go. I didn't go and I just don't feel like it's for me. I had a bit of a sketchy path getting to the right T for me, and as I said previously...I feel like I'm in the right hands.
How do I approach all of this with my BFF without causing her more anxiety? I especially don't want to make her think I don't believe in her choice of the EMDR approach, because it is working for her. It's causing me a lot of trouble in the mind right now, which I don't need... But I love her and can't just ignore the situation.