@octoberful: That's why I think that countertransference can be dangerous. Sometimes the therapist's countertransference may not be an accurate feeling of what is actually taking place. But therapists follow their countertransference and use it to understand what is happening in therapy. And her defensiveness bothers me because if she doesn't even have the basic courtesy to say thank you when someone brings something major to her attention, I can't have any respect for her as a person or a therapist. And it jeopardizes our work.

I think that's crazy and stressful how a harmless and humorously said "you're welcome" can be perceived and misconstrued as a way to control her. I was merely trying to put an end to that topic so we can move on to something else.
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ETA: I was rereading Accesshoop's response and had a funny thought came to my mind. I'm not going to do anything with the names on the list. But imagine if the therapist has a totally out-of-control patient who starts harassing or stalking other patients - assuming that the names on the list really are indeed patients' names. There goes her career. Seriously. Her license would be revoked. And she is someone who has written papers on ethics...... Just saying.

That's why I find it odd that she claims herself to be very strict about HIPAA. But she still used Skype, did not transition me to Skype, and even after this feature was brought to her attention on Wednesday, her patient who was scheduled the same minute that my therapy session ends, called her on Skype. I could hear the ringing and recognized that it was Skype's video call ringtone.