Thank you all for so many thought-provoking replies to my conundrum! X

I've just found out I'm pregnant (after a miscarriage, a year of therapy for the miscarriage, and 2.5 years of trying), and I suddenly find my confidence plunging. I'm worried about not being able to handle a) a baby b) another miscarriage c) reduced finances d) setting up my business (because I'm a talentless hack and because I can't afford to not bring in money) e) driving my kid around (I have a driving phobia). I'm all over the place. I'm shocked I'm pregnant - - I'd really come to a point where I'd assumed the effect of my shortcomings would be limited to me and my husband. And now that there's the potential it could hurt an innocent kid, I'm shitting bricks.

I'm also quite confused as to why I feel this way, because the first time I was pregnant I felt more confident than I ever had in my entire life.

I don't feel like I have any role models in this area - my mom was and is a walking cloud of worry and unnecessary stress, and while I've shucked off a lot of the anxiety thanks to my down-to-earth husband, it still plays a big role in my life. None of my close friends have children and there are no children in my family either.

I guess one good thing is that I'll be facing fear no matter what - this pregnancy ends in a birth or a miscarriage.

Sorry, just rambling now. I did read your thoughts and found a lot of it insightful - I'm just having trouble incorporating them to my own life for some reason.