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Originally Posted by Waterloo12345
Go go go 
You may be running before you can be pushed or leaving before you can be left. Been there! I didn't actually not go but I wanted it. I did retreat. We did talk about not wanting to come but otherwise kept it very light.
Or you may be punishing him for not agreeing to email on holiday- which is only really punishing yourself. He's not gonna call and beg you to come to session. Been there too.
That distance thing - do you experience in life that when someone is not there they are effectively gone/don't exist/dead to you? That may be what you are feeling with your t after a few days. Just another manifestation of the insecure attachment gig. |
I don’t think I’m punishing him for not agreeing to email. If anything I might be punishing myself for asking. Or maybe I’m just trying to show myself and maybe him that I don’t really rely on him all that much. Sort of confusing. For sure there’s some kind of insecure attachment going on - avoidant or maybe fearful avoidant. I’m trying to trust my gut, but also to do the thing that feels the most difficult because, after all, that’s why I’m in therapy. Part of me likes the idea of not going, but maybe that’s the exact reason I should go.