I have autism on top of CPTSD so I can REALLY screw up subtle cues. I have also learned though that cues are very ‘cultural’. There are a set that are understood in the culture of my family, there are a set that are understood in my home state of N.Y., there are a set that my close friends know are quirks of mine... so it is hard to generalize questions across contexts. I know it helps me if I can figure out why the behavior bothers me rather than focusing on the other person being too daft to pick up on even my least subtle of cues.