I have experienced many of these thoughts and symptoms. I am not saying you are exactly like me but I have come to realize that a lot of these thoughts are driven by anxiety. Occassionaly my husband has also told me I am being negative--and he is right. Though my negativity comes and goes.


It is a balancing act--on the one hand, when we are unhappy about something our husband does, we need to not be afraid to express it to them. When I hold things in, it just magnifies the feeling. However, we also have to accept that we can't change our husbands and that we also do things (like complaining about the same old things) that make them unhappy. I do think that finding things you enjoy by yourself is important but so is finding things you like doing together. Have you thought about taking a vacation on your own? I will be visiting my sister this summer and am going to take my daughter with me. We (my daughter and I) have talked about some road trips we want to take together out there. In the past, I feel like I should only go for one week (because my husband said he didn't want me gone that long/missed me) but this year, I am going to go two weeks because I want to. Sometimes we hold ourselves back when we really don't have to.





My husband and I walk together everyday (4.5 miles). This has been really good for our marriage and health. Perhaps I am being just like your counselor when I say this. Sometimes I think PC is just as good as going to a counselor and it is free.