I'm so sorry, Sisabel I understand how you feel. Was this a development that occured recently in your marriage or was it there from the beginning? Unfortunately some marriages can lose steam with time. I'm not sure if I'd suggest to leave. If you're constantly unhappy and miserable, I'd definitely say so! However from what you wrote it doesn't sound so easy. I'd say try to build your own life regardless of what your husband says, if you haven't already. Even if he doesn't want friends, can you try to make some friends and build your own circle of friends by yourself? Is that an option? After all, you've already tried all you could do to rebuild your marriage. But like you've said, you can't force him to change. He's the one that has to put the effort in it. You can only do so much to help. The final decision is up to him. Does he see a therapist? Maybe that could help. Especially since you think he may be depressed. Perhaps you could try to suggest that to him, if you haven't already. Do you think he may refuse? I'm so sorry, I know it's hard when the people who should be the closest to us aren't that supportive. Try to build your own life if you can. Even without him. If you feel like he's too controlling of your life, or you feel like you can't handle it anymore, I think you seriously need to reconsider your relationship with him. That's just my opinion, though. The final decision is up to you. You can do this! You're strong, I know that. I believe in you. Is there anything we can do to help you? Please let us know. Whathever you decide, remember that we're here for you. Feel free to PM me anytime. Let me know if I can do something to help you. Wish you good luck! Let us know how it goes. Sending many hugs to you