I have been wondering how to split everything up....being that my move is to KY from the California house....the only things I want are the things I purchased with inheritance money that was mine (not ours). With a 5 bedroom house....we accumulated furniture & a lot of stupid collectibles that aren't worth a dime...but he thought we always had to buy one for us & one for collection....just in case if would become valuable.....(the story of his life).

There is no IRA money left after all the medical expenses we have had. He has a retirement from one company he worked for....not much per month....but it will be some when he starts to take it. I had no retirement plans at any company I worked for. All we mostly have is the house.

What I really would like to have happen is that when we get the refi.....he will be able to give me my 1/2 out of that & then take it over.....the scarry part is that he is so irresonsible...I know he will end up loosing it......besides, he doesn't want the house either......but I figure he gets it...he can stay there while he is selling it & that will allow the divorce to happen quicker than if I'm stuck waiting for the house to sell......I just want out & I can't take much more of his pathetic irresponsible lack of actions.....everytime he does anything, it's pathetically irresponsible & my response it that of disgust & anger.....even with 2200 miles between us.

I don't know how to do a divorce from this far away either.....it seems that might complicate things too.

I know there was a previous post about separating things financially....just was wondering if anyone else has some input on the financial aspect of divorce

Debbie