Hi sunrise,

If your husband was watching live pornography in front of you whilst discussing the "education" of your children, this could not be regarded as normal behaviour. It is well known that men who compulsively watch pornography may be depressed themselves, where pornography is a kind of escape into another world: "the grass is greener around the corner". I don't know whether he is aware of his depression, because one can be depressed without being aware of it. If so, he could be treated for it.

Please read:

Depression is a Nutritional Disorder

and

Sexual Abuse and Treatment