You can be you without needing to live your life according to the norms or expectations of a particular social group or lifestyle. Being gay does not mean that you need to behave a certain way or go along with anything that is uncomfortable for you. Be yourself and be with people who love you just as you are.
I don't fit in anywhere either, but honestly I'm not bothered by it anymore, as long as there are a few people who accept me as is.