I came across this word a few weeks ago and its stayed with me ever since....it explains a lot of what I wanted from T and what she was willing to give me...I'd never come across this word before but now I see what I may have wanted isn't necessarlity what I needed....its very painful having to go through childhood stages as an adult but I also see that its so much more beneficial to be treated as an adult so one can grow and become interdependent rather than dependent for life...which is a very painful place to be ....anyways I really got a lot out learning about that word...and got to see what I was trying to do without even realiseing it and thankful T is strong enought to give me what I need and not to keep me infantized..life is so much better grown-up