Hi there,

I'll try to be brief but just starting with my question rather than an introduction - is it possible for BPD to go in and out of 'remission'? I am a serial monogamist and have jumped from one relationship to the next (always with overlap/cheating) - I have literally never been single one day since I was 13 (33 now). Each relationship starts the exact same, with extreme intensity and obsessiveness and passion, but also terrible instability, mood swings, suicidal thoughts, self-harming, extreme distrust (sometimes to the point of paranoia and delusions) etc. etc. - tons of drama, anger, upheaval and fear. At this stage I identify strongly with the BPD stuff, but then over time, as the relationship settles (if it doesn't end there), it mostly goes away until there is another interpersonal conflict. And then eventually I grow bored of the person and don't feel the fear of abandonment at all because I already have one foot out the door.

Asking because my new therapist has brought up BPD as something to think about (previously diagnosed with bipolar) and I've had this lingering 'tentative' diagnosis for basically my entire life, but only now that my bipolar stuff is pretty under control with meds can I actually see it.

Anyways, sound familiar?