Seems like you are not putting yourself first and letting others muck around with your feelings too much.
By going off the story it sounds like the guy is playing games, you might have know idea what he is really like, it takes years to properly get to know a person. He's obviously going to put his best personality on to draw you in, it's not until you go through a few challenging times with them to where they start to show there true colours.
If you feel he is playing games and is not being genuine, **** him off or make sure to tell him very sincerely how whatever he is doing is hurting you. If he doesn't catch on it and continues to do the same thing then you have to ask yourself is he worth all the stress and are you okay with having cracks and holes in your relationship, are you there for a bit of fun even? Make sure you know what you want... and sometimes you have no idea what the other persons motives are and if they feel the same way towards you as you feel towards them, you need to accept that and look at the reality side of things.
But as I said you should really get know what you want in a relationship and let that other person know aswell.
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Originally Posted by Deyla2324
Back in October I was having a hard time dealing with a bad break up, since then I found out that my ex is already living with his new girlfriend and who she is. It hit me hard, I cried and started to put little pieces together. If they are already living together he must have been dating her while he was with me. I started talking and dating a guy that messaged me on Fb, it kind of stopped me from thinking so much about my ex. However I noticed that he wasn’t so interested as he said he was. For example, he would send messages but it would just be “good morning, how are you” and that’s it. We would spend time together and he was the sweetest person ever. We had sex and he spend the night 2 weeks ago and I just thought, well maybe I am not in love with him but
maybe with time I will. Well he started to distance himself, no messages from him. When I would ask if he was ok or if he didn’t like spending the night with me he would say that he was fine and will tell me that he loves me. I don’t have too much patience and I deleted him from fb. On Saturday I went out with my co-worker and he was there with his friend and a lady. I sent a text and he said that she was just a friend. He didn’t communicate until yesterday, he said that he just wanted me to know that she is just a friend and that he had no interest for her. I said that if he wanted to continue dating me he needed to show more interest and stop going out with other women. He replied he wanted to continue dating me, this morning he sent a message, I replied and I noticed he read the message but didn’t text back even though he was online. I called and he didn’t answer, I texted and nothing. I left him a voicemail saying that I didn’t want to continue talking to him and not to contact me anymore. He sent a message saying that he was on his break and had left his cellphone charging but he was using whatsapp and he was online. I blocked him but that doesn’t change the fact that I feel played again, I know I am not in love with him but I still feel hurt. I don’t know what is it that I am doing that is so wrong. I talked and dated for over 2 months before I slept with him, I was nice... There is a say in my country “ a nail will pull out another nail” but it is wrong it will make a bigger whole. It sucks feeling used.
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