Hi, noonereally, and welcome to Psych Central!
I can relate to a lot of what you said. One of my parents was narcissistic and I think the other had something like dependent personality disorder. I wasn't supposed to tell anybody bad things about my life either.
I was able to leave home, though--and I've spent years in therapy. I was told not to live very close to my parents.
I hope you'll be back soon, because I think we can be helpful and supportive.
Again, welcome!