One more thought for you Steph since this school anxiety issue is close to my heart...

if you think it could help your daughter I would be willing to write a note here on PC sharing how I struggled with feeling sick before school and had panic attacks. I would emphasize how I was able to move beyond that. I could post such a note right here on the thread for you to read or in a PM to yourself. You would of course review it and decide if you'd like to share it with her. In my first career, I worked with children (I now care for adults) so I think I can write it at a level that makes sense to a 9 yr old. I also have a niece who is 11 and she has a lot of anxiety about school due to relational aggression from some girls in her class. Though I realize that does not sound like your daughter's specific problem. My goal would be to give her hope that she will not always feel overwhelmed by panic.

Just an idea for you Steph. No offense taken if you don't think it's a good idea.

Good luck!