They were never married. He told me that he always found a way to get out of it.

Basically in the end I think he was home long enough to pay the bills and leave again.

IMPO - they never should have started living together because of a child. Two competent people can raise a child not living together. And then, I think he just made a bad situation worse and she just gave up.

Kinda a sad story really. And in the end, the kids suffer.

I totally agree Perna. (you always have great insight) Ten fold. I know we all make mistakes but I think it's the steps of self exploration that helps us self-correct.

I think that's what he's starting to do. He's starting to question. A good sign of not wanting to hit the repeat button, I think.