I believe that 2 people can just be not comparable. On my first appointment she told me that if at any point either of us felt like the other wasn't a good fit, then we needed to be honest with the other. If we were not a good for the therapeutic relationship wouldn't work. We ended up being a great fit and I think we knew it in that first appointment.

I sometimes wonder if Emdr T are a good fit. When I am in her office I feel like we are and doing great work. I have told her things I never told anybody else because of opening myself up to being vulnerable. After I leave I wonder if we are so comparable. I realize, though, that I am likely wanting her to be like T and that just won't happen with anybody. So I keep plugging away