I wasn't on PC for quite a few days so this is late but I wanted to comment on Tymber's early post (that we were all urging Scott to conform, etc.).

I was in no way saying Scott needed to conform to male stereotypes, instead I was trying to offer a few simple things he could do to alleviate his anxiety. I agree that it would be better if this weren't necessary but since, in his case, he's having trouble I thought some simple short term options could be handy. Self acceptance should always be the ultimate goal but relieving stress is a good goal in the short term.

Cyran0