Yes, people and situations are more complicated than this. I feel this way about the entire DSM. However, when we are confused about our feelings/having a relationship crisis--we have to start somewhere in order to understand what happened. I am especially uncomfortable with the whole concept I see in some articles--that people with narcissistic traits are not capable of change.

I went through a period of time where I was paranoid about my husband. The paranoia drove me to read a lot of articles about narcissism. Though I acknowledge that people can be abused by a person acting narcisstically, when I was reading a lot of the articles about narcissism, I was a bit off the deep end struggling and this is a forum with people struggling (from both others and by our own actions). The good thing that came from all that reading is that I recognize better when I am being gaslighted. We know intuitively when we are--we just have to have the confidence to trust our gut and stand up for ourself.

Hope I didn't butt in inappropriately....