Doh, thanks for taking the time.
Not sure on seeing an MC. Much of the rest of our marriage is really great and even the slightest hint that we (or just I) might wish to see an MC (for any reason) would freak her out. Warning bells would go off etc... first thing out of her mouth would be: "why is something was wrong?"
Hmmmm...Could be a good lead in to a discussion of the Toby problem.