I'll go for most of it, but honestly, people posting links as "help" bugs me to death. I too know how to Google and can find my own, thank you, there's no need for you to show off your basic Internet skills. ;-)

Supportive to me means kind thoughts and an insight I might not have had myself, phrased nicely rather than arrogantly (as in, I'm smarter than you because I read a book/thought of this all by myself/etc). I don't want a philosophical debate to break out, I want some empathy and something to think about.