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Old Mar 13, 2008, 03:59 PM
Anonymous29412
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Oh, my, YES. I struggled with this SO MUCH at the beginning of therapy. I tend to worry that people won't like me if they know the "real" me, so I totally felt like I was setting myself up to not be liked just by GOING to therapy.

This was really THE huge issue for me for a few months at the beginning of therapy (and that fed in to my abandonment issues quite nicely!). I ended up telling him over and over again how much I needed reassurance, but he wasn't very forthcoming with it - not verbally, anyhow. He did other reassuring things, but I just couldn't let the fear go.

I finally said to him, "couldn't you tell me you like me just a little tiny bit??" and he answered "I DO like you!". And he does, I think. Today, he spontaneously told me "I like working with you". I still worry, but not as much as I used to.

Is your T doing/saying anything to make you think she/he doesn't like you? Could you tell him/her how you are feeling about this?

I know how bad it feels to have this fear, and I'm sending you many warm wishes!