I'm not sure how clear I was. I guess I don't define 'men' by personality characteristics. A man is a man if he identifies himself as being a man. There are personality caracteristics of some men that I don't like (such as career competitiveness) but I don't consider them to be less men than one who is collaborative (although I find that to be sexier). Same with women. And if I had a problem with crying men (which I dont), then a non-crying man still wouldn't make it into my book as a 'man' if he identified himself as female.

I just think that the question is awkward - maybe I'm stuck on the semantics though. I'd rather answer: 'what characteristics do you find attractive in a man'. Men already have way too much pressure, IMO, to behave a certain way to conform to society's view of 'men', and it saddens me to exacerbate it.