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Old Feb 17, 2019, 11:02 AM
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Grand Magnate
 
Member Since: Jun 2012
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Originally Posted by DP_2017 View Post
The problem is, you gotta be willing (open minded) to other things and without that, it will always be talking in circles. I have been torn down many times here since I was a member and I'm still here, still reading countless posts, sharing hugs/thanks and offering support if I can find the words... but yet, still get harassed and reported often. I'm unsure if this is fixable

and miss bella, as I don't wanna derail the other thread.. really "countless times a day"? LOL That's very drastic for asking for support. Maybe we could start with honesty instead of throwing out things like that??
AND people who have been traumatized are NOT open-minded about that. I do get that.

I was open-minded, with a "false self", maybe idealistic approach to life, and my trauma was pretty closed off to me and the world. So I finally "got in touch" with it and the last T couldn't tolerate the rage I experienced, and expressed relatively mildly but still there. It was therapy for heaven's sake! OK, it was her "own wounds" but I am very much NOT open-minded about considering her side of things AT ALL. Further, I believe that is rational in that instance.

She told me at the next session that she was "triggered", as if that explanation should put things back on track, no apology, no interest in how her shaming had affected me. No interest in me, apparently -- and I think that is true, although some may be transference from family members who were not interested in me either. Enough said about my wounds here, I get where the non-open-minded people are coming from.

Does that make any sense to you? Even though it's not something that you have experienced personally?