I think there may sometimes be a tendency, too, to kick someone when they are down. That may frequently come from people who are avoiding facing/accepting their own wounds.

That's different from what I see in some posters, though, who are mostly trying to express their own point of view. And just don't see ours. AND when we come off so wounded and hurt and self-defensive then it's sometimes hard for them to see our point of view, even though they might otherwise be inclined to. Limitations of human nature sometimes, I think.