I never thought it would be like this... is this how it gets... I am at the point in my life were no one wants to hear me. NO ONE. No one wants to hear anything I have to say... no one cares at all.

I can't figure out how to get out of this pattern and also, what do I do?

I mean I am starting to think it is a matter of training myself to speak less... perhaps I would even be happier?

Workmate #1: Last week I got called for a job interview and I didn't go to the interview. She said, with lots of gust-o, that I couldn't complain about my job anymore. Errr.. first, I hardly ever complain about my job. And err, mostly I only do that because I need to have something to say to her. She complains so much about her job she can't stop herself from walking into my office constantly -- when the door is closed. I mean literally she keeps going on about how it is DOD day -- door open day -- because a noisy co worker is gone and I smile and SHUT MY DOOR.

She just wants to talk bout her... that is it.. 100% and resents me getting a word in edgewise.

Workmate #2: The thing is... she is busy right now, but I cannot walk into her office without her doing all the talking or leaving. I am sitting there eating my lunch and she isn't even in the office. I can't help but think she just doesn't want to talk to me. This irritates me because it is over on the other side of the building so I can't get my work done while she is gone.

Workmate #3: ok how do you say this.... she takes an SSRI medication and she is so spaced out she can hardly maintain a conversation and I am tired of her not being responsive to what I just said and scattered brained. I think it is the SSRI but she just doesn't give one lick about me - I am more and more sure of it.

The more I look around and try to find out the secret to people in my workplace surviving it seems like they have a strong family life. Sometimes I now wonder if that isn't the secret. They can be quite all day because when they go home they will have someone to truly listen to them. And they get it all out. But I don't have that... I thought, and it was this way when I was younger, I could have other people in work etc to listen, but I am not finding that. I am just finding users. I think, frankly, because I am single and they know it. So they feel i should be their dump ground and feel I am not worthy of anything going on with me.