Hi McDonald. I'm sorry that you are still being manipulated and feel unsafe. I know your situation well. I was emotionally abused but not physically abused. After he left, the abuse continued for both me and my son. It's like he had total control over us, even though he no longer lived with us. This went on for *many* years and finally, I decided that enough was enough and both my son and I went for therapy, which really helped us. Maybe therapy could help you too? It might help you to discover why you continue to allow it, even if it is subconsciously, and how to stop it. I wish you the very best of luck, it's not an easy situation to be in. Hugs sweetie and take care. Please get yourself in a safe environment where he can't physically hurt you anymore. Bruises may heal, but emotional abuse can stay there a lifetime, please get yourself some help for that.