Umm.. yes. Advice: GET OUT and BREAK UP WITH HIM.

This man is lying to you AND cheating on you. He is full of BS when he told you it was not cheating. And BS there was no penetration. Come on. I thought I've heard it all, but that is a big fat lie.

Unless you've agreed to an open relationship where you both can have sexual relations with someone else and that is OK by both of you, he cheated. I assume you are both in a supposedly committed relationship? So he not only cheated, but now he's manipulating you into thinking it wasn't cheating! What a scumbag!!!!

Also, him not being able to create boundaries with her? He is having his cake and eating it too! He gets BOTH you and HER, and gets to do what he wants. He most likely is having sexual conversations with her late at night (why else call late at night????) and who knows what else. SHE is cheating, and so is he.

If you are supposed to be in a committed relationship with him, this man is NOT worthy of you OR your time.

Please don't waste another minute of your precious life on him. Long distance relationships are very VERY difficult to maintain.

This is not a problem of you being jealous and insecure -- it's a problem of infidelity and dishonesty on his part.

Please reconsider the relationship and think about what I've said. I am so sorry... and please forgive my straight forward manner of talking. Just being 100% honest and direct.