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Originally Posted by Alpha03
YOU ARE IN THE BOLD:
"Is she really close with your uncle and aunt to where she would be able to overlook or avoid addressing how they treat you?
Could you re-explain this? I do not understand."
They are nice to her and treat her nicely. You could say she's good friends with them. However she defintely is not willing to listen to me and overlooking my father. It's very strange.
I think she doesn't really care-she chooses to ignore what I've mentioned about their sad behaviour towards me and to ignore my father comments.
It's a bit of a shame, it's like she doesn't care if one of her future relatives bullied her kid, it feels like the same thing. She can ignore me, but ignoring my father?
"]quote]One of the uncle's didn't even buy me a present(she's seen it) but doesn't question his integrity, they are not even helping me out in anyway and my cousin did something and she says "you should see the doctor" when I gave her full proof of it.
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Are you upset because your sister got a present and you did not? Do you think they should buy you a present or have they in the past? Are they supposed to help you out? In what ways?
Is it possible that she doesnt have the same experiences with your aunt and uncle so its hard for her to see your issues?"
Once again my father also talks about how they have also treated him and she overlooks him.
They are sending a strong message by not getting me a present. They don't want to acknolwedge me and the uncle is starting to step up a gear by trying to take a dig at me by saying "this is your house to my sister (in fact it my father), are you going to sell it and get a percentage back for yourself?" he also says "how much money do you earn" and say
other things at other times to try and make me uncomfortable.
They are suppose to help me and even my sister out especially towards marriage since we're Indian and our culture has a huge emphasis on marriage and we also don't have a mother.
She's very blind to see they are not acknowledging me, not giving me the support, encouragement, recognition and they do to everyone else in the family.
There's so many other things I can say.
I understand why she can't see this.
"Do you mean she ignored you while in the same room? Or do you mean she just didnt see you anymore? Being angry and talking angry isnt always abuse. Have you ever asked her why?"
Yes she ignored me in the same room. She talked and behaved towards me all those years in a very poor manner between 2005-2012, looking at me angry and talking to me angry and just says one word answers. She doesn't admit it and when I say some of the things she done she says because she doesn't have a mother which she passed away in 2001 when I was 12 and she was 11.
Even now and at other times she's acted very angry towards me for some reason. I feel scared to even talk to her. One of these times were at my uncle's birthday party in dec 2017 I said something in my polite manner and she just looked at me in an angry way and talked to me in a angry way.
Another time when someone gave a wedding invitiation for v****a for her wedding in may 2015, which the inivtation was given in oct/nov 2014. I said "it's this person's wedding" and she just turns angry and talks to me in a very disdainful way like I don't deserve to talk and it hurt so badly that I just went upstairs and cried in my room.
Another times at a wedding which was 'r' in late november 2010 I went to ask her something and for some reason she looked at me angry and spoke back in a very poor manner.
Yet another time at a charity event in 2016 I asked her something and once again the same angry face and angry reply.
"Why do you care if she is or isnt going to see a friend in the city or whether she actually has a friend in the city?"
It's wrong being dishonest. She 100% does not have a friend in the city where she says "I'm staying over at my friends house" it shows how dishonest and untrustworthy she is. She's also lying to me father about this since Feb 2016.
When I said where? She doesn't say nothing. When I say what friend, she goes "friend k" but this friend lives in another city. All of her friends don't live in the city which she's on about.
She only hangs around with a bunch of friends and I know what area they live. She even she was going to place x where her friends live, so this friend lives at place x and another friend lives at place y.
100% I swear on my life, she has no friend in the city where she goes "I'm staying over at my friends house".
Even sometimes after work she goes at another place "I'm staying over at my friends house".
"Well maybe she doesnt want you to borrow her things and rather than say no, she just says she doesnt know where something is."
Well I said can I borrow something when I went to her room to say this and I'm so sure she knew where it was, which the thing was on top of the 5 chest drawer as I could see it and she could to, for goodness sake it was right next to her phone! She never leaves her Iphone. Same with me I when I had my Iphone I always whatsapp or look at the internet on the phone.
Even when she came out 20 minutes later she didn't bother to give it to me.
How?
How is she untrustworthy?
Someone said "happy birthday to me" and she didn't bother to even say that person said happy birthday to me. That person even said did your sister say I said happy birthday? She can forget once, but a few times?
Again so many other times over the years someone told something to her to tell me (and later they said did you sister tell you) something so they told it to me sister to tell it to me and all those times she never said it, not once, many, many times.
She lies a lot too.[/QUOTE]
I'm sorry that your sister is treating you badly. You don't deserved to be treated this way!