Starting marriage counseling later today. I don't have much hope that it will change anything. Haven't been happy for awhile now. My husband is verbally and emotionally abusive. I just want to cry. 16 years is enough for me. I don't know how to tell him it's over. I'm afraid he will hurt himself if I leave. That's one of the reasons I haven't left yet. My p-doc wants me to leave. She is worried for my safety. I don't think he would ever hit me. But his anger is scary at times. All IOP has done is open my eyes to how unhappy I am with my marriage. It seems like everyone in the group is having some sort of relationship issue. He is the reason I am in IOP. Otherwise I would of ended up IP. Sometimes I wonder if I should be IP. It would get me away from him for a while. What to do?