I'm so sorry you're hurting so much, Betrayed92 I'd suggest to just be honest with her. It is a difficult situation, after all. Being with her could be too overwhelming for you, and you probably need some time to get over it before you can start to forgive her, if you want. That's perfectly understandable. Especially if the marriage has recently ended. Just tell her that you don't feel like being her friend after all, for the reasons you have already told us here. Hopefully she will understand. You don't have any obligation to be her friend, after all. So yes, I do believe that you should just be honest with her. Be kind, but firm in your decision. If you change your mind and you want to try to be friends with her, you can always tell her so, I believe. I'm so sorry, I know it's hard. Please don't give up. I hope you'll feel better soon. Is there anything we can do to help you? Please let us know. Remember that we're here for you if you need it. Feel free to PM me anytime. Let me know if I can do something to help you. Wish you good luck! Let us know how it goes. I'm so sorry you have to deal with this