So my wife is BPD, we have been together for 10 years. I have been through alot. The last 3 years have been really good but last year my biological son got into a car wreck and sustained brain damage (the police said the accident looked intentional) and he had been drinking that night. Now she has deemed him her enemy. He is doing much better and getting back to normal but he is not allowed to drive yet. He wants to hang out with his friends. She thinks he should be punished. I feel me dropping him off to hang out alittle helps him cope with his circumstances of his accident. He has been through hell with this but she feels after of year I'm not committed to "teaching him a lesson". This is simply gas-lighting but I need some moral support. By the way my son is 24 years old!