I finally saw a counselor last night. The first issue I brought up was my growing resentment over my daughter and her H showing up and treating my home like a bed and breakfast. After more than a decade of my daughter not being very involved in my life all of a sudden she decides she is coming for holidays and whatnot and now I must accommodate... they live out of town so the visits are several days at a time. Ever since she had her baby this has started. It has been expensive and tiresome and my resentment is growing. It’s not just all the cooking and cleaning and expense... they aren’t appreciative and I don’t enjoy the time they’re here. There is always tension and her H is a bit hostile in a passive-aggressive way. The counselor said to be honest and tell her how I feel. How I feel... right now I want to tell her please don’t come at all because I want to relax and not run a bed and breakfast. I don’t even know how that conversation should go... For example, mother’s day. She hasn’t spent Mother’s Day with me in over 10 years. I don’t think she will come but if she did for example... it would be an expensive event of feeding and entertaining her and H and the baby... with all their tension towards me that I’m tired of... versus I have grown to enjoy it as a lazy day in my pjs to just selfishly indulge myself. It took me years to get to this point of emotional acceptance that my daughter has not wanted to be a part of my life and now I am resentful at the expectations being put upon me.