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Old Feb 20, 2019, 11:35 AM
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Originally Posted by luvyrself View Post
Assertiveness classes are in fact exactly for this purpose in that they teach how to stand up for yourself without being so aggressive that you work against yourself. I think its a matter of phrasing things tactfully. We might imagine that a whole audience is listening, which it is.
This was indeed wisely in response to a direct request. Im sorry it was not recognized as such. In my experience, assertiveness training that i took 40 years ago was not as effective to my underdeveloped self as was my more recent DBT training. Even something seemingly as simple as saying "No!" felt overwhelming at first.