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Originally Posted by -jimi-
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Some people are sort of preprogrammed to turn trauma inwards, but some turn it outwards. They might become people who destroy things, steal, like excitement, use drugs and very often feel quite bad. I do feel bad when they are basically carried out with the trash.
I do understand the needs for articles from antisocial people, but I rarely see anything from the other side. Or any other viewpoint so much.
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Thank you for continuing to post on this topic. Just for reference, I'm one who tended to turn trauma inwards -- and acted out on myself in sometimes emotionally vicious ways. But, occasionally, I directed it outward, too, and then generally did feel quite bad.
It's understandable that people, including therapists, would want to avoid getting hurt by people who have a tendency to hurt. But the extremely one-sided picture that is so frequently painted has long reminded me of the saying "one finger pointing out, three fingers pointed back".
I think there may be narcissistic and antisocial tendencies in all or most of us. Those impulses are frequently viewed as dangerous and unwanted in civilized society, and totally unacceptable -- especially to people in the helping or caring professions. But if we have those impulses, as people, cutting them off inside ourselves and/or judging and pointing fingers at others doesn't seem to me like it's a society I want to live in either. Some kind of middle or nuanced way seems better, to me. But, that's just me, of course.