Parenting without both parents being on the same page on an issue that affects their child does not make for a healthy marriage. Fighting about it would be inevitable, and already this last year (2018) was a horrible year for my marriage with things just now mending. H is a wonderful, involved father. He loves our daughter as much as I do. So what, I'm supposed to go behind his back, he'd find out from my daughter about it anyway, and then everyone would be upset. That's not healthy either.