I'm so sorry you're hurting so much, Doglover6335 From what you wrote, it seems like he was definitely upset, although I wouldn't say he's decided to leave you right away. "I can't deal with you anymore" is something a lot of people say, but it's not always meant to be taken literally. So perhaps there's still hope for you and your husband. I'd suggest to talk to him about this and see how it goes from there. Just apologize to him, explain why you've acted the way you did, tell him about the trauma you've had, if you haven't already, and just tell him that that's the reason you've got upset in the first place, and that you have nothing personal against him and that you still love him very much. Just be honest about this. Hopefully he'll understand. That's the best thing to do, I believe. It would be terrible to ruin a marriage for an argument like this. Are there any other problems that you feel like you need to work with you husband? I believe this was just "the last straw" for him, and I feel like there are bigger issues that you both need to work on. Have you tried couple counseling? Maybe that could help. You could learn new ways to cope with your emotions. Hopefully it will be helpful to you and your husband. It seems like you both really need it. I'm so sorry, I know it's hard. Please don't give up. I hope things will get better soon for you and your husband. Is there anything we can do to help you? Please let us know. Remember that we're here for you if you need it. Feel free to PM me anytime. Let me know if I can do something to help you. Wish you good luck! Let us know how it goes. I'm so sorry you have to deal with this