What if the tables were turned? If he really, really felt strongly about giving X med to my daughter, and I felt equally strongly I didn't want her to take it, but he gave it to her anyway without my wanting him to? It goes both ways. He is such a good father, if only every kid could have a dad like him. He doesn't know tons about psych issues except what he's seen/heard through me and some training he got one time.

H is also not stupid. He knows about scientific evidence and how it can be slanted. He's got a Ph.D. in Physical Chemistry (from the Nobel Laureate Rick Smalley, deceased) and is a professor of Industrial Engineering. He has written and co-authored many publications (even some in the biomedicine field at a previous job). He has witnessed and heard about scientists intentionally slanting evidence for publications and/or government grants, and so have I (M.S. in Cell & Molecular Biology, though my studies focused on bacteria with a thesis & publication dealing with bacterial cell wall protein transport, not medicine or the human body). And then less than a week ago, I actually did read a recent article from a reputable journal suggesting the evidence linking melatonin and sleep may not be as strong as initially thought.

H's problems with melatonin are: they don't know how much is the key amount to take for effectiveness, how often to take it (nightly or not?) and its long-term safety. His main concern is that supplements like melatonin are not regulated by the FDA. So these are the issues my husband has with giving melatonin to his child too, and they are all valid issues. They are not stupid concerns.

I can't just discount him as a parent.