Here's a separate post to address your anxiety just from your side...
(I live with it too btw...it can range from mild to panic at times depending on life's stressors)

What have you tried? What works? What doesn't work for you?

Do you know what triggers or exacerbates your anxiety? When did you first become aware of feeling anxious...was it present in childhood or only adulthood?

Have you tried acupuncture from an experienced TCM doctor, PhD? (It really helps me to relax..if needles bother you acupressure could reallt help)

Have you tried guided meditation? You can go to Youtube...'guided meditation for panic' or 'guided meditation for relationship anxiety' (guided meditation really helps me regardless of the trigger)

Medication? Even something mild and temporary to break that anxiety loop...to take the edge off while you work through things with your husband?

Mindfulness? Are you familiar with grounding techniques?

Active self-care strategies?

I will send you a link to a thread here on PC where folks share strategies for ameliorating depression and anxiety without drugs. If drugs work for you, fair play. If not, maybe some other people's ideas will help you.

For now, breathe slowly and deeply. All feelings are temporary. Life is always now. We can only deal with one moment at a time. Take good care of yourself Doglover. Remember that you deserve peace, unconditional love, and joy