Shared MORE ,,,,,,,, <<<<<<, But I really do share . REALLY .

Just a warning : This could get long .

This cancer thing That Donna has been going through . [ ref : ] Grief and loss forum >>> cancer and family history .

Along with that,,, Donna and I are BFF's.. We have been everything as we grew up together. [ June 15 this year will be 28 years together ] And I in my learning more in the trades and the better dollar type of home-remodel work ..... It has still mostly took two incomes to TCOB and have the fun we have enjoyed ,,,... <<< Nothing extravagant ,,.. But we have been able to pick up stakes and make moves as a team and still keep all intact.i.e. Pets first ... and Us second .

Well we have been back here in North Carolina { she grew up here } >>> like 9 years . We left alot behind when we came back ... Florida was low wages and hot a-s weather .. But we had been there for like 9 years .....,,, And her older peeps in the family were not getting younger << >> LOL << .

So through the past Years we were here for her mother ,,, and It seems now for her father and cousins and ,, yea ,, the cancer stuff.>>>> I want to be able to have a convo with Donna and ask her ,, " Will me being gone ,,, Leave state for a bit ,, bring more co-operation from your ( well to do ) Family and will that help you " ?

Ya see ,, I am a Yankee ,, and these peeps are old thinking southerners. I not one of them ... Plus I be Not a 8 hr. aday grind type . [ except when I was 2 weeks away from opening resteraunt and Donna got her Dx for cancer ]
The way I am ,, ya drop everything and ya work out the details later.
That was going to entail others ,, not only myself picking up finacially for Her and Her Pets . And what ever else I was not able to now attend to .

My wishes were to be there and be close . I kinda gave up myself I feel .. No regrets though.

Hardest thing to explain is ,, hey ,, Just because ya got breast cancer not mean ya get disability the next week or month or months .
So we got to go to Landlord Tenant eviction court today ....<<< That's what I call it << Actually Small claims court.
We felt we were asking for enough ,,, and to say Hey Can we help us out on this too ? [ meaning Family ]... Ya This was a timing thing ... Ya would think Disability would kick in at ooooooooooooo say 4 months ??? << Nope . Not yet ,,,, .

But after judgement rendered and as we all were in Parking Lot and Then communicating ,,, I was ,, BTW ? Ya know I needed this eviction thing like 3 months ago ... If You wanna get assistance with bills while you are most probabley going to get some ,,for the time ,,relief ,,, Ya best show a major need ...

Well Landlady peep was all Ok I get ya a lease and I have my fix-it guy come and look over the things you want done >>> Like we been here 8 yrs. 4 landlords ..... and Hey ,, Unless they own for 5 years they not gotta do much as far as cosmetics go ,,,,,, Well .. ,, Yea I can put paint on walls .... But is that going to be compensated .?

Answer always Well You should have had last land lord do that .

HUH? grrrrrrrrrrrrr LOL.

And the fact this is like a percieved Wild Wild West area << High Crime <<. eeeeerrrrrrrrrmmmmmmmm .. I not worry that ,, I have 3 dogs that are combined weight of aaaaaaaaaaaaaa ??? >>> 425 lbs. And 2 attack cats >>> hehe.

Actually I have to end this here for lack of >> train of thouight ,,,,, Donnas' Dad called while I was typing this post ,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,, and >>>>>>>>>>>>>. I think he knows more than we wanted him to know ...

I'll Post a follow up .>>> He <<<< Didn't even know we depleted our I RA s' and roth accounts With this surviving thing ....

Funny though ...,,, He will speak to me for an Hour And it is like old home week of a couple of KKK brothers .