Quote:
Originally Posted by Doglover6335
He makes lots of comments about me being forgetful and mindless when I do little things like forget to turn the fan off when we leave the house and things like that. He doesn’t see it as being mean; he says I should be happy that he’s truthful with me.
An example is right before we got married I was dieting to make sure I would fit in my wedding dress (I’m small; under 125 but there was no room to gain anything in this dress) and he said randomly one night “Are you sure you’re gonna fit in your dress?” And i said yeah I’ve been dieting and he said “well it looks like you’ve been gaining weight so i doubt it.” Of course this launched me into a freakiut session cause I’m insecure. I was crying and shaking and so unhappy cause I just wanted him to think I was beautiful. He got SO angry at me for getting so upset at him for being “truthful” and ignored me for days. He threatened not to marry me but eventually said he’ll do it “only because I dont wanna disappoint my family” he apologized a few days later but it still hurts to think about.
|
I used to get forgetful when I was Walking on Eggshells in my home. Remembering the fan isn't a your or him thing to remember, it's a both thing to remember. And I'm floored about telling you you looked like you were putting on weight and wouldn't fit into your dress. Holy cow....
Do you have any close personal friends that you could connect with?
Are your job skills transferable?
Do you have someplace safe that you can go?