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Old Feb 21, 2019, 02:39 PM
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Originally Posted by downandlonely View Post
I don't think it's a gender issue in my case (I am female), but it does seem to me that some people are openly resentful of mods. I really try my best not to hurt anyone's feelings or trigger anyone (although avoiding triggers can be almost impossible).
Thanks DownandLonely, but I'm not sure how avoiding triggering someone is possible if you have asked if there is a problem and they don't make you aware that they have been triggered. It wasn't an obviously triggering sort of discussion, more of a sensitive exploring.

And you are right that peeps can be against mods. That's why I dismissed the whole thing. I'm the sort of person who thinks that everyone has a good and bad side to them, don't hide in a cupboard and pretend otherwise.


But my question is generally - how do more experienced women deal with men who have a history which makes them reactive to women - or with women who have a history which makes them reactive to men?
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