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Old Feb 21, 2019, 05:25 PM
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Originally Posted by Doglover6335 View Post
I’m hoping that space will help. I have not said anything into him or bothered him since this happened, but he has said it’s the last straw and that he’s not talking to me again so I’m not sure how I can make this right.
My ex husband used to give me the silent treatment. When it first happened it was very confusing and I couldn't understand why we couldn't just talk things out. He is over a decade older than me, but the age didn't mean more mature at all. There was nothing that I could do to make it right because...silent treatment is a means of emotional manipulation. It's scarring. It was vindictive. It was a means to "put me in my place." It could last for days at a time.

I tell you this, to let you know that it's not about you needing to make it right by him. You've done nothing wrong. This isn't your fault.

My ex husband is/was an emotionally stunted individual. He has anger issues. There's an emotional dysregulation about the anger. Albeit not all tears nor the type of emotions that you profess displaying of yourself if that makes sense?
Hugs from:
Doglover6335
Thanks for this!
Doglover6335