That's his way of punishing you. That's also a part of abusive behavior. Ignoring you for days when you don't do what he wants exactly as he wants you to. I think it would really benefit you to read up on emotional and verbal abuse tactics. It helped me tremendously when I've been in an abusive situation. It helps to identify the behaviors and also distance yourself emotionally from the person.

Here's an article I wrote on the topic:
Verbal and Emotional Abuse in Relationships Defined

And here's an article I wrote on recovering from emotional abuse:
How to Recover From Emotional Abuse in Relationships

(I have a blog)