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Originally Posted by divine1966
Then I recommend that you work two part time jobs or leave that job and find ful time one. If you only work part time what do you do the rest of the day? Do you have family you can ask for help to get on your feet? Can you find roommates? Take a loan? I understand financial struggles but what would you do if you weren’t married? Many women have never been married yet they function and thrive without depending on a man.
Focus on becoming independent and one way to do it as go to a shelter (you can even call them and tell them you have no transportation), tell them you are being mistreated and abused and your husband abandoned you and now you have no place to live as you can’t afford that place you live now. They might suggest resources and assistance.
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I can understand not wanting to leave a county job but there are other divisions that probably pay into the same retirement programs. I work municipal and can fully appreciate where the OP is coming from. But my experience is that part time employees and full time employees historically pay into different pension programs. I know I was and have to buy out my part time time now that I bumped up to full time. But I also know that one can switch departments entirely and maintain longevity years that have accumulated.
I've known and continue to know people that do take on second jobs even within the umbrella. I think it sounds like the vehicle situation is a roadblock. I've been there. I've hit my bottom just to get out of a crap situation. Almost 9 years later, life continues to improve. Every time I thought I wouldn't get through the next hurdle, opportunities opened. Probably, no definitely, would not have happened if still stuck in a bad marriage because my focus would be diverted to the horrible marriage.