I don't think he is trying to push you off. He knows what you need from him when he makes plans to leave town.

I think that the support group is great. It gives you another support system with respect to the SI. Yes I agree that we can be angry with someone and still care for them and see the care they have for us. Your T has proven time and again in many ways that he does care so try and hold on to those moments.

My T and I are in this place right now too and it feels great.

I still hate vacations though. I've had a steady day and time and every once in awhile my 7:00 appt is given to someone else and I joke about hating whoever has my spot...ha!