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sarahsweets · Feb 22, 2019, 02:51 AM

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Originally Posted by Izzydog2019

Now, I will say that there is an 11 year age difference between him and I. He is older. When we first started dating, we had no issue with this, whatsoever. If anything, it was too much.

Do you mind me asking how old both of you are?

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It was like he, all of the sudden, just didn't want anything to do with it. Of course, this makes me feel horrible. I feel like he is going to leave me at any moment, to find someone he actually wants. It makes me feel bad about my body. It makes me inadequate. All together, it's driving my self-esteem to the ground.

Do you think he he is seeing someone else? What makes you think he will leave you?

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To me, it isn't about the actual act, it's about me feeling like I am desirable enough to keep him. I have mentioned how I feel to him and he assures me that he loves me and that it doesn't have anything to do with me, but that doesn't make me feel any better about it. I love him more than anything in this world, but I feel absolutely awful about this all of the time. Besides this, our relationship is almost perfect. I just don't know what to do about this. I can't think about anything else. This is triggering my anxiety to an extreme.

I understand how you are feeling. As women, when men "reject" us or just do not seem interested in physical intimacy it is hard for us not to take it personally in part because men are"supposed" to want sex more than us and if you previously had a very active sex life it makes you feel like there is something wrong with you and that you aren't desirable. In my experience.. if he is not complaining about you or not having sex, and he is not cheating on you then it isnt about you. You say you have talked about this with him and he says its not you. You have to take him at his word and not pressure him. I am sure if there is something going on in that department he feels embarrassed about it already. And it isn't about you. What specifically has he said about it?