Don't feed into his childish manipulations. He is manipulating you yet again to make you think it's all your fault.

Stay strong in your stance. I like that you told him he was overreacting. That showed strength and courage. You stood up to him.

I don't agree with the poster who suggested you try and tell him how unhappy he is, how hard that must be for him and that you love him, etc. That is coddling him and giving into his manipulations.

This man is outright abusive. Please see him as this. He is manipulating you and is behaving just like a child -- exactly as Open Eyes put it -- a child having a tantrum.

Make him sleep on the couch if he is going to stay until he leaves. Draw the line; draw the boundaries. Tell him HIS behavior is unacceptable to you and that you're not going to put up with it. Take back your own power.