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Old Feb 22, 2019, 07:09 AM
Doglover6335 Doglover6335 is offline
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Originally Posted by divine1966 View Post
Many people in bad marriages saw red flags as early as during engagement, their own wedding, and honeymoon. Yet they rationalized it or were in denial or felt they can’t leave because of kids or were afraid to be alone or quickly became financially dependent on their spouses so they stay for many years: 20, 30, 40 etc

Do you want to be in the same boat 30 years from now? You are very young. You don’t even need to be married at your age. Certainly don’t need to be miserable

I don’t agree wuth people who want you to focus on cuddling him and helping him to see the light so to speak. Analyzing why people do what they do is a waste of time because we might never get an answer. We can only analyze WHY we do what we do and control our actions, not other people’s

Anyone who behaves like he does after only a month of marriage is not marriage material, at least not now. I believe your focus should be solely on improving YOUR own life, your health, your safety and your future. Take focus off him
I do wanna work on improving my life; it’s just that I don’t know what that means without him. I’ve built so much of it around him that I’m lost now. And he is starting to make me question whether I have been abusive with my actions too. I never meant to be, but is it possible to be abusive not on purpose? Maybe my freaking out and crying would drive anyone to this point