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Originally Posted by Doglover6335
I’m trying to see it this way and I was for awhile; I just have never seen him this upset and hurt and it kills me to think I did this. Even if it is just a charade to make me upset, it is sure working. He is good at making me feel sorry for him.
I read the articles before bed, and they were really helpful so thank you. I fully recognize now that this is abuse, but it’s still so fresh that I feel paralyzed and unable to do anything besides cry
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Glad they helped. I just sent them to you in a PM in case you didn't have a chance to read them. Please absorb and perhaps even re-read the abuse tactics I laid out in the articles.
You are accepting his blame towards you; please don't do that to yourself. Again, please do not listen to his words and accusations. It's all an act of manipulation and is a control and abuse tactic.
He wants you to think this is all your fault and all your problem. HE is the problem. How many times has he threatened to leave? How many times has he made you cry because of his treatment towards you? How many times do you feel he has been mean towards you? Do you see what I am saying?